This page is dedicated to my own personal advice and opinions concerning some of the most controversial things we all face at one time or another. Everything is taken less from theory, but experience. Also, expect alot of this to be in "rant mode". In other words, you should expect a bit of disorganization, but every thing is assured to be at least readable.

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Racism

I only had a few times where racism hit me hard, and a few occasions that totally showed the retardation of many ignorant people. I was called a "chink" one time by some kid from St.Joe's Prep here in Philly. He was passing by in a school bus and thought it would be fun to "yell and run". That didn't hurt me at all, being that my intelligence and level of moral was probably a billion times higher than his.

Then there was the time when me and my family were shopping at Marshall's in Radnor. Out of all places, I would expect more decency. It was an older white lady who followed us, literally on our asses. There was, of course, many other shoppers there, but of her creed. It just so happened that we were the ones most likely to steal. What made me finalize that judgement was that, it wasn't just her waiting there to help us out, but was that I noticed that her eyes watched our hands. Now, that hurt. The whole chink incident was just a matter of some idiot kid.

But this, Marshall's in Radnor, dropped my heart. I had always pictured Radnor as an acceptable neighborhood for all races, since the population is of a good racial mix, and most residence are well educated (not just wealthy) people. These people in the neighborhood are doctors, professors, politicans, and another sublevel of doctors. And from what I know through statistics and word of mouth, the neighborhood is about 30% Asian, which isn't too shabby for one of the most elite suburbs in Pennsylvania. My point is, here, I lost respect for something I admired and longed for... an educated environment.

What also hit much harder was the disrespect the lady had for my parents and my family overall. My mother and father are hard working American citizens. We have a thriving jewelry business, and (not to show off, but to further prove my point) we are a upper-middle class family. And God as my witness, my parents have to be one of the most passive and honest couples I have ever known. Their foundation for life has been only dedication to me and my sister. They are drug free and for the most part, alcohol free. My mom never curses, and my dad slips once in a full moon. My mom still changes channels when there is any 30+ second kissing scenes involved. Now, only if the lady had known this and did not make her ridiculous assumptions. When she watched us the way she did, we all left, feeling disgusted for the rest of that Sunday. My parents, out all people, did not deserve this.

This incident was something stupid and sorrowful. Some many criticize as something that can be shrugged off. But for me and my family, it is much harder. When she watched us the way she did, we felt as she was saying, "You are Asians and a stranger to my neighborhood. And as a stranger, since I do not know you, I can not trust you. You are of a different color, you can not be my brother neither my sister."

Even after various incidents and stories of racism I have heard and experienced, I refuse to hate on others. Even when I walk through a few Black neighborhoods in Philadelphia where I am picked on or thrown absurd "wing wong chang chong" noises to fret my soul, I will walk into a Black household where I am greeted with arms wide open. And even when asshole old white ladies who work at Marshall's think my family is going to steal at their store, we will accept all our customers without any injustice brought upon them because of race. We will accept all, and individually filter persons, and not rationlize through explicit stereotypes and ignorant gossip. Know that for every person you meet of a certain race who may show a ignorant side to them, there are another 100 of that same race who are not. Don't bias because of a few people, or even a few dozen. This world is pretty big and you have a few more billion people to meet.

A few last notes. I am not uptight about Racism and I rarely do bring it up as a serious conversation. I have learned to actually exploit stereotypes of ALL races into jokes, rather than choking people about the words chink and gook. All in all, it has worked out for the best. My white and black friends make fun of me, I make fun of them. We know our limits, and know that are intentions are well... and usually just to mock the idiots who actually intend to use racial slurs and actions with seriousness or the motivation to hurt.

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Asian Girls and Girls in General